Oh, boy! I think I’m having an intellectual crisis!!!!!!! 😦
As the title suggests, I’m seriously contemplating dating outside my Black culture. It’s actually been on my mind for the past couple days. I’ve been mulling it over and over again in my brain and, the more I think about it, the better the idea seems.
Now, I’m all for my Black men and I am all for the building of strong Black relationships and families! But, why do I feel this sudden urge, this irresistible desire, to really spread my wings when it comes to the dating scene? I’ve tried to turn my thoughts away from this, believe me I tried, but it still stuck. Instead of fighting it, maybe I should explore it?
Is it really that bad?
This is the question I have been putting to myself over the past couple days. And my conclusion is “No.”
There are two main points that drew me to this conclusion, and quite possibly, into the arms of men outside my culture.
Point One: Black men do it all the time, so why can’t we?
I’ve stated several times that Black women are the most LOYAL women in the world. No matter how much pain a Black man puts her through–embarrassment, humiliation, heartache–a Black woman would (usually) never turn to another culture because of it. Just look at the rap and R&B videos and their artists. The Black women’s image has been desecrated again and again by the image that OUR men have chosen is acceptable all for the love of money. Listen to the lyrics such as Lil’ Wayne (you knew I was getting to this clown)… how even he says a Black woman isn’t beautiful unless she’s light-skinned. Latinas and White women dot the music landscape…Hell! Even my boy Rick Ross has an unhealthy obsession with Latinas.
And it’s not just the music industry. Black men who have dated Black women up until they catch their big break in Football or Basketball, will drop a Black woman just to marry outside their race. To them, a Black woman is acceptable to drop babies in, but not to marry.
But, we remain steadfastly faithful.
Can you see my point?
So, if Black men can go out and date outside their culture, why can’t we?
Point Two: How can we appreciate what we have, if we never know what we don’t?
How can I tell people that Black relationships are amazing, if I 1.) never been in one (LOL) and 2.) never explored other cultural relationships?
Is it so wrong for Black women to explore uncharted territories? To venture out of tradition into new horizons?
And, if we come back to Black men, we’ll appreciate the culture more.
So, those are my thoughts. I don’t know if I’m really going to do this, but it’s something that I think I’ll consider.
Maybe I’ll start dating Asian guys… I happen to think Asian guys that act Black are kinda sexy LMBO 🙂